Relationships Are Challenging
Our romantic relationships are capable of bringing intense feelings of happiness and contentment as well as sadness, anger and anxiety. In the beginning, everything can feel so easy… both partners are excited to be together, interested in each other and appreciative of the differences between them. Yet somehow with time passing things often start to change, feelings of frustration may begin to develop, and we can go from feeling understood and valued to feeling defensive, attacked and hopeless. Arguments, hurt feelings, emotional distance and sexual indifference may start to become the new norm.
Why Does This Happen?
The answer lies in each of our unique histories. If you think about it, our first model of how to do emotionally intimate relationships comes from our parents, the way they acted with us and with each other. In our own relationships, most of us find ourselves wanting to do things differently from our parents, but are unsure of what to do or where to begin.
How Does Couples Therapy Work?
I will act as observer and coach to understand the unique dynamics that each of you bring to the relationship, help facilitate awareness of how they are affecting your interactions, and teach you more productive ways of understanding and relating to one another. By learning how to communicate your feelings, from an open and non-defensive place, you will deepen and strengthen your emotional bond, giving yourself a sturdy foundation where you can feel more supported, understood and loved regardless of what issues arise.